The English title for this topic is “Feelings are相对的， but love requires payment.”
In our daily lives, we often hear the phrase “Feelings are相对的” and it makes us feel confused. Can feelings really be relative? And if they are relative, how do we understand the concept of love?
Love, on the other hand, is a different story. Love is not relative, but it requires payment.
When we talk about love, we are not referring to a feeling that can be gained or lost. We are referring to a state of being that we experience when we are in a relationship with someone.
And when we talk about payment, we are not referring to money or material things. We are referring to something more than just physical needs. Payment can also be emotional needs, like time, space, support, and understanding.
In a relationship, love requires payment. It requires us to give something back to our partner that we don’t get from just being together. It requires us to be kind, considerate, and supportive, even if our partner is not like that.
And when we give payment to a relationship, we are not just giving something physical. We are also giving something emotional. We are giving ourselves up, taking on the role of a partner, and doing what it takes to make our relationship work.
In short, payment is not just about the material things in a relationship. Payment is also about the emotional needs that we need to满足 in order to be in a relationship with someone.
So, to answer your question, feelings are相对的， but love requires payment. And that payment can be something as simple as giving time, space, or support, or as complex as fulfilling emotional needs that we don’t get from just being together.
